Success in life does not depend on the grades we get, but it solely depends on the efforts we make towards achieving what we want. Life is not fair many times it hits us hard on our heads but we need to focus on our goals and plans. Personal efforts and dreaming of success will see us making it in life. You will fail so many times, but every fail needs to give us a new insight into our success. As the saying goes “we only fail when we try something”. So, failing means at-least we have tried something.
To get going we must love what we do and therefore we must find what we love. This ranges from our studies/ work, lovers, etc. it all goes without saying that, “failing to plan is planning to fail”. Success begins by identifying our strengths and weaknesses, setting up goals and targets, and working towards them.
For us to succeed, we have to;
- Trust in God
- Work hard
- Focus on your goals
- Be self-motivated
- Have self-control
Success in most cases has been defined with the progress we make in our academics but that is not true. Success is hitting the mark. The big question is, “have you laid down your goals?” If not yet, you need to do it now, don’t wait for tomorrow but start now. A certain philosopher once said that “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, but the second-best time is now” Oprah Winfrey, Stanford University, 2008 said “What I’ve found is that difficulties come when you don’t pay attention to life’s whisper because life always whispers to you first". And if you ignore the whisper, sooner or later you’ll get a scream. Whatever you resist persists. But if you ask the right question—not why is this happening, but what is this here to teach me—it puts you in the place and space to get the lesson you need.
Ideas will always come into our minds and many times they leave unattended. You need to tap every opportunity that comes your way and maximize on them. Always remember that opportunities come once and they don’t last forever. As Oprah said, pay attention to what life whispers to you. There is justice in this world and you will identify with what you do, you will only rip fruits of what you do and there is nothing called magic in success. Live your life with integrity, don’t give in to peer-pressure by trying to be something you are not, be honest and compassionate, and contribute in some way. Don’t ever forget to follow your passion and stay true to yourself. It will cost you; sleep, party, some friends, being cool, etc.
To be successful, there are several things you need to do. These life principles have been drawn and applied by the great icons of this world and for your information, people failed, tried many times but without giving up, getting support from others, we have those great scientists, billionaires, great artists, footballers, and the list is endless. The following “points” can see you becoming that person you have always desired to be.
Trust in you
You need to ask yourself these questions; “who do you want to be? The point here is WHO!” this is no respect to what your parents, teachers, or even relatives want you to be and it comes from your inner self. It’s you to take the initiative and launch your journey to success. Identify what makes you happy, it does not matter how weird it might be but here is where it begins. Trust your feelings and dreams first before you listen to anybody else all through. The self instinct to everything plus excellence in whatever you do is all you need. You are the best person to tell yourself what is good for you, for it's only you who knows it better. Breaking some of the rules At some point in life, you will have to break the rules and realign them to fit you. There is a certain saying that “learn the rules like a pro so that you can break them like an artist”. Remember it’s the rules to be broken and not the LAW. Think outside the box, think big, think wide. You need to view life through a certain angle and remember that, if you want to please everyone you are doomed to fail. Plan B is always very crucial and critical for it saves a life. Furthermore, rules are made to be broken and if not so no one will even think of making them in the first place. The race is for the swift, you need to be unique and outstanding, be different, don’t be like everybody else and this is only by breaking some of the rules.
Dare to risk
Many people remain at the same level for a long time simply because they are afraid to take any risk. This is not a world of cowardice and only the brave gets the bigger share. For you to succeed, be ready to fail, I always say that “Every day is not on Sunday”. The greatest people who ever existed were the greatest risk-takers. Fear of failure should never exceed the zeal for success. When we allow fear to occupy our minds, we cannot think of an innovation or idea. Our world will be so small for we shall rotate at a radius of, “what shall happen if ---”. Steve Jobs we all know about him, he dropped out of college. This is what he could say “If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do.” He dared to risk his studies for something else for he felt he had a passion for something different and that made him what he is today. Michael Jordan spent the first 7 years in the NBA ringless, with no team titles, but once he won the first one he never stopped winning. So you must have the courage to step up to learn and one day succeed. People don't get what they want in life because they are afraid of failure. Failure is one of the biggest fears, fear of not being accepted if you fail, fear of being rejected, and not being held as a perfect person. What we fail to know is that perfection doesn’t exist anywhere. If you don't try you'll get nothing, if you try and fail you'll get experience. Next time, you'll know what not to do, and what to do. Get your goals on the line and be a dreamer. Remember every forward step takes you closer to your goal.
Follow your instinct
People will discourage you from doing everything. Many times you have heard that you can`t do this and you can`t do that, no one has ever done that before who are you to succeed? Arnold the great film artist said “...I love it when someone says that no one has ever done this before, because then when I do it that means that I’m the first one that has done it." Avoid those who are there to discourage you, pay no attention to anyone who says this cannot be done. “Yes, you can” the principle that saw Obama being crowned the president of the United States of America. Always listen to yourself and follow your instinct. Most of the time, people's opinions are not aligned with your goals and dreams, because they're YOUR goals and dreams, not theirs! So, negative comments will always be around you, what you have to do is ignore them. Don't mistake "naysayers" for advisers; advisers are those people in your circle of influences that can help you to get better by analyzing your work and giving you tips.
Fight the uphill battle
Don`t leave any stone unturned, dig deep and deep until you get it. Success does not come on a silver plate and we have to get the guts of moving forward. "... It is important to have fun in life, of course, but when you’re out there partying, horsing around, someone out there at the same time is working hard. Someone is getting smarter and someone is winning" Arnold Schwarzenegger. Most people who want what you want are not willing to make a sacrifice to achieve their goals. This is the secret, go for that extra mile and you will be many steps ahead. Remember anyone can do what you want to and you don`t need a God-given talent or gift to make it happen or even one has to be born with some kind of special skill. Anyone can work hard so just focus and have your mind on it. Talented people can be beaten by those who are willing to work harder and know that if you don`t want to win, there is no reason to work hard. Do you want to make your dream come true? Work hard.
People tend to forget where they have come from but remember “YOU” are not people. You must always find time to give something back to your community; give something back to your country. Helping people will bring you more satisfaction than anything else you have ever done. Make it a habit or even a weakness to give a hand and help someone. The only reason why you can be on the top today and tomorrow be nothing is lacking this spirit of helping. Being number one is not a problem, the problem is maintaining it. Don`t be proud as the only successful person who ever existed. However, you should be proud of how many people you are helping to go even further than where you are.
Though we pass through many difficulties in life, we should never give up because life is not about what you could not do so far, it is about what you can do.